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Many people keep on asking why they cannot find themselves in good relations with others and keep blaming others.
Well, Let's look at the art of communication as a major key point of developing healthy relationships.
 
Communication is an essential in any given relationships we find ourselves in.
A person is able to air out his or her thoughts and opinions on certain issues and hence discuss with the other party involved for a better outcome. This reduces chances of stress caused by overthinking on a certain itchy matter and as we all know, a problem shared is a problem half solved.
 
A good communicator or communication entails:
  1. Knowing what you want to communicate.
  2. Listening to what others are saying.
  3. Developing solutions that will be for the good of all parties involved (Commonly known as the win-win situation).
  4. Expressing appreciation.
 
HELP ME HELP YOU
 
 
Expecting someone to know or read your mind is very unproductive since you'll always be disappointed and angry towards them as they will not live up to your unrealistic expectation. It is also unfair as it is an assumption that they have supernatural powers. (The only assumptions i know of are in physics and since we aint talking of physics today, I'll skip on the topic). We are all humans, so do unto others what you want done unto you even the Holy scriptures say so.
 
We always know ourselves better than anybody does. However, it is very important and for our own good to inquire from others how they view us and this can help us analyze ourselves and change where necessary to have good relations with others.
This is all achieved through communication.
 
In addition to all that, HONESTY is the key to effective communication since such a a trait builds and bind people in a given relationship at all time. We often think that a little lie cannot damage a thing, which is very untrue. Lies once discovered can lead to being mistrusted forever and lowers your dignity too.
You will never be at peace with yourself when you tell lies that bind you and the other party involved. Never Ever!!!
 
#peace

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