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IF WOMEN CAN'T, MEN SHOULDN'T EITHER.

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People say adoption beats abortion. Well...what about the large number of children waiting to be adopted? And the ones who do not get adopted? Also, many people do not understand the psychological effects of not having that nurturing parent around. It truly messes kids up for life. What a sad life to live in an orphanage with no family or parents!


If they make abortions illegal, they should make it illegal for men to desert women after getting them pregnant. If women cannot back out of pregnancies, men should not be able to either.



On this fine day,I was running errands with my grandma and discreetly purchased a pregnancy test and ran to the washroom to take it. Immediately, it showed a positive result. I continued to walk around the store with her, tears streaming down my face, telling her that something in the store must have activated my allergies.

Normally, I stay quiet, but not silent. I consider myself to be pretty responsible, maybe impulsive at times.
My boyfriend at the time was leaving for college...( enough reason for him to back out) Neither of us was in any place to start a family or bring a little person into the world.
Abortions are hard. Being pregnant is hard. Being pregnant and thinking that there is no way out of the situation is even harder.

I thank the Universe that i live in a country where all that was required was a phone call and one appointment and a very looong day at a very crowded clinic. I still did it anyway.

Let's save all the procedure i went through, any other blah blah blah you want to know...i think that should be on personal level. I am selective in who i tell about a safe and necessary medical procedure. so, i stay quiet, but not silent.

Stigma affects me to this day because every time i read an article about abortion restrictions or every time i hear an anti-choice person say that abortion is murder, i feel like they are talking to me, and it is not okay.


Today, i have two amazing children. They were brought into my life when i was ready and could provide what they need, financially and emotionally.

I am not advising anyone to go through it,it might not end as well as you may think. So many effects accompany such decisions and procedures... ask around. Or wait until i write on it.


Still, if women cannot back out of pregnancies,men shouldn't be able to either.








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